Your wedding dress hem is measured to the shoes you'll wear, which means your shoe choice and your dress are linked. Pick the shoes first, or at least decide the heel height, before your hem is finalized.
Why heel height decides the hem
A seamstress hems the dress so it skims the floor, or just above it, at the height you'll be standing. A two-inch difference in heel is a two-inch difference in hem. If you hem for high heels and then wear flats, the dress will pool on the floor and you'll trip. If you hem for flats and wear heels, the hem will be too short.
So take your actual shoes, or a pair at the same heel height, to every fitting. See the full list in what to wear to a wedding dress fitting.
How to choose
Think about the whole day. Ceremony, photos, dinner, dancing. Many brides plan for a heel at the ceremony and a flat or low shoe for the reception, which changes the hem question. If you plan to switch, tell your seamstress, since the hem and bustle need to account for both.
Match the shoe to the surface. This is where your venue matters:
- Lawn or garden: Stiletto heels sink into grass. Block heels or wedges are steadier.
- Beach or sand: Barefoot sandals, flats, or flexible wedges.
- Ballroom or hardwood: Almost any heel works, and slick soles may need grip pads.
- Barn or gravel: Block heels or low heels with a stable base.
- Church or cathedral: Usually flat floors, so heel height is a style choice.
Keep the shoes hidden or on purpose. If your dress is long, the shoes barely show. If it's tea-length or has a high-low hem, the shoes become part of the look.
Break them in. Wear them around the house for a few weeks. Add cushion pads, and keep a pair of flats in your kit.
Check it before you commit
Hem length, train, and shoes all interact with the space you're standing in. With Aisla, you can see yourself in your dress at your venue before alterations. It's a quick way to check the overall look, including how the length reads. Photos start at $1.99, videos at $3.99.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need my wedding shoes before my first dress fitting? Bring your actual shoes if you have them, or a pair with the same heel height. The hem is measured to your shoes.
What if I want to change into flats during the reception? Tell your seamstress early. They may be able to plan the hem and bustle around both, so raise it early.
What are the best wedding shoes for an outdoor wedding? Block heels, wedges, or flats, since stilettos sink into grass and gravel.
Can I change my heel height after the hem is set? Small changes may be possible, but a big change usually means re-hemming. Decide before your final fitting.
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